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Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« on: October 17, 2006, 11:48:13 am »
I have a problem...One of the girls who works for us has a young male Pitbull.  I just found out that she is buying a female pup today and is planning to breed them-"just once."

While the girl is a nice person and is knowledgeable about Pits, I can't believe that she's going to do this.  She rents and apartment,is very young and has a lot of responsibiliti es besides the dogs, and is not exactly financially well off.  Not only that, but she is getting rid of her cat to do this (my husband already said I can't take her :( )Is there any tactful way to tell her what a bad idea this is?  I don't want to upset her as she's one of our best employees and we really do like her, but I feel that this is just terribly irresponsible.  Is it my place to say anything?
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Re: Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2006, 11:51:44 am »
You could just bring it up as in "maybe you should wait until you get a house cause it would be so much harder in an apartment" or something to that effect. I have never bred dogs, so I am not sure how much work is involved, but I would imagine a lot. Best of luck and sorry I couldn't be of more help :(

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Re: Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« Reply #2 on: October 17, 2006, 11:59:39 am »
Maybe find a few sites that are about breeding pitbulls (a few good ones where they discuss the incredible amount of work and responsibility). It might be enough to make her realize she'll be in over her head. I was amazed the first time I read through the breeding process for a breed. And all the what ifs (like, what if the mother's milk doesn't come in, or there's complications) and things like vet trips for check ups and shots (that will cost tons)... Maybe she just "thinks" it would be a really cool experience but hasn't really looked into it enough to know what's involved?  Just a thought...
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« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2006, 12:17:34 pm »
I agree, find some sites to show her, if she loves the breed, she will understand that it might be better to wait to breed when she has all the information and all the resorces. Hope all works out! Best of luck!

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Re: Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« Reply #4 on: October 17, 2006, 12:52:25 pm »
*sigh*

I might be a bit jaded, but in my experience, it is VERY hard to convince someone not to breed dogs. I mean, if they are already on their way to doing it, they clearly do not have the same values/ideas/perceptions/knowledge..whatever...as me (or in this case, you). So, its hard to change that. It is also hard to say anything tactfully.

Being a person that doesn't keep my mouth shut when someone is doing something wrong like breeding pittbulls, I've found that I usually end up making the person defensive. Its hard. But, specifically with that breed, perhaps you could show her on petfinder how many homeless pitties there are, and explain to her how many are euthanized because of the epidemic. In our HS, there are always so many pitties and pitty crosses. Explain to her that by making more, she is causing someone that might have adopted one from the HS to get one of hers, thereby lessening the pitties' at the HS chances of getting adopted.

Or....wop her over the head with a wiffle ball bat.  ;)

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Re: Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« Reply #5 on: October 18, 2006, 12:03:06 pm »
I vote for wiffle ball bat, or something even harder.  ;D
« Last Edit: October 18, 2006, 12:03:34 pm by krismark »

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Re: Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« Reply #6 on: October 19, 2006, 06:48:26 am »
I'll send you pictures of my neighbor's starving pit bulls that are kept chained up 24/7 without shelter, food, and often water and that I can't get the cops to respond to. Maybe that would change her mind.

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Re: Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« Reply #7 on: October 19, 2006, 07:35:16 am »


How about saying "oh, so if you're eager to breed then you will surely want to be sure to do everything that a responsible breeder does because you want to be careful not to be labeled a backyard breeder....I am happy to help...." and then provide her with material that clearly outlines what a responsible breeder does and doesn't do, the required health certifications (which can be costly) that must be done to determine if your dogs are breeding quality and rule out genetic problems being passed on, info. from the Pitbull Club of america (go to their website) and hopefully they have information about responsible breeding and ideally a code of ethics to give her. And then, perhaps some documentation showing the statistics of homeless pitbulls.  I know that all of the pitbull rescues in the southeast region of the U.S. (8 states) are not even taking in any because they are so overcrowded. I would also be sure to include for her how critical it is to temperament test her dogs and then all of the puppies given the breed.

There are many websites that outline the critical things to look for in a breeder - I have some on my own site if it helps:  www.naturalk9. com and then go to "Looking for a Puppy?"

This usually works for me - I offer to help and provide info to them since they have never done it before and by the time I have given them everything and gone through it - they realize how little they know and that they aren't being responsible if they can't afford to temperament test, research pedigrees and health, get all needed health certifications, understand the breeding process and costs with c-sections, complications, and care, and offering a responsible contract to buyers that includes always taking all of those puppies back and being ultimately responsible for them - she created them after all.

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Re: Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« Reply #8 on: October 19, 2006, 01:36:02 pm »
This is exactly what we need in the world, more pit puppies that are gonna get a  bad rep. because they weren't raised to have good temperments.

Here's what you do...as soon as the puppies are born you break in and take them to the nearest Pitt rescue in your area.  Cut out the middle man and just take them there.

Seriously...I don't advocate theft, but this is just not gonna work.  I live in an apartment with Lucah and my wife, we picked the OEM breed because we knew that they like to be indoors and need minimal excercise.  We are still going to buy a house for him, but we knew that other breeds just wouldn't make it in an apartment with only a small yard.  Pitts need space and to run, this is just a bad idea.

Suggesting for this woman to "read" things probably won't work.  She doesn't seem like a "reader".  If she was she would know what could happen if she does this.

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« Reply #9 on: October 19, 2006, 02:29:44 pm »
Thanks for the suggestions but I'm pretty sure there's nothing I can do.  Today, after work, her BF showed up with not one but TWO puppies!!! ???  My husband asked if they'd had their shots and she said no.  So, not only is she going to be breeding but she got them from a crappy, BYB for $100 each- gee, what a bargain, especially if you never plan to take them to the vet.  She now has 2 unneutered male pits and an unspayed female who will probably be pregant before her 1st bday.  It's so depressing.
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Re: Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« Reply #10 on: October 19, 2006, 11:44:51 pm »
Oh, how sad... Especially because they are pits and are already struggling so hard with a poor reputation. Not only is it how they are raised that can lead to a poor temperment, but poor breeding practises with poor tempermented dogs can lead to alot of the problems with pits. THREE INTACT DOGS???? TWO MALES AND A FEMALE???? Sadly your co-worker will most definaltly be contributing to the horrible statistics on pit bulls. She is creating the perfect recipe for disaster. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this person on a daily basis, and who knows, maybe the chance will arise that you can offer some good advice without seeming like the know-it-all bad guy.

And if all fails....I agree with Lucah's Folks ;).
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« Reply #11 on: October 20, 2006, 04:01:38 am »
That is really sad! So now they have 3 dogs? But what you said is true...and people are going to do whatever it is that they want to do. I'm so sorry cause you are going to have to hear all about it as soon as the female gets pregnant. I wish there was something more you could do, but people like this exsist everywhere. ((hugs))

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Re: Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« Reply #12 on: October 20, 2006, 04:30:26 am »
I dunno, Im not trying to offend anyone, but I think you guys can be a bit harsh to people who are not as knowledgeable about dogs as you. I dont think it would be anyones place to tell her that its a bad idea. One, she will get defensive towards you, and two it will probably just make her want to do it more because you're making it sound like she's not capable. If you want my opinion, print the websites for her, but tell her you're doing it to help her out, not to help her "see the light". But, thats just my opinion.

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Re: Worst idea ever! How do I convince her not to breed?
« Reply #13 on: October 20, 2006, 05:24:29 am »
I dunno, Im not trying to offend anyone, but I think you guys can be a bit harsh to people who are not as knowledgeable about dogs as you. I dont think it would be anyones place to tell her that its a bad idea. One, she will get defensive towards you, and two it will probably just make her want to do it more because you're making it sound like she's not capable. If you want my opinion, print the websites for her, but tell her you're doing it to help her out, not to help her "see the light". But, thats just my opinion.
This is exactly why I'm afraid to say something to her.  I don't want to be a "dog snob" (because I have no right to be) or come off like a jerk.  She really is a nice person and is intellegent- just not educated in many ways.  However, I just don't understand how she can't see that this is a bad idea for so many reasons!
I will print off the sites and give them to her, to "help" but I just feel terrible that there will soon be yet another litter of unwanted puppies in the world.
Also, my husband called this AM to report that the female puppy is already sahowing signs of major aggression (this from the would be "breeder's" mouth).  The puppy is food aggressive and bites and growls at the other dogs and people who get too close to her while she's eating.  AHHHH.
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« Reply #14 on: October 20, 2006, 05:43:26 am »
It is difficult not to be "harsh" when you see someone throwing away lives. And that is what careless breeding is, creating lives so they can be discarded. Yes, some of the puppies may end up in loving wonderful homes, but how many do you think will end up as bait dogs, fighting dogs, tied up to a tree, or euthanized as viscious? That is reality, and reality is harsh. The only thing that you can do is try and educate people, and if they choose not to listen, walk away. In the same token, if those same people come to me gushing about their "beautiful puppies" or come to me for advise or commiseration because their unsocialized dog just bit someone I tell them "too bad. Guess dog ownership/breeding wasn't all it was cracked up to be." And I still walk away. And that IS harsh.
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