Hey Ladies,
First and foremost, thank you so much for all of your advice. I can say truly say that it talked me right off the ledge. I was totally and completely prepared to sulk, keep the massage gift certificate for myself, and leap into the "you don't even care, do you" speech.
Instead, following the BPO Queens wisdom, I sent an I.M. back saying, and I quote,
"honey, i realize you've been swamped, but i am hurt that you didn't get me a card for our anniversary. i'll take your word for it that it is just something that didn't occur to you to get/do anything for. all that being said, i am ready to have a nice night.. but just keep that in mind for any future anniversaries. ;-)"
I was very proud of myself for that one, I must say. He sent me another I.M. apologizing profusely and saying that I could keep the gifts if I wanted to, because he didn't deserve them. Very obvious that he did feel bad. I told him not necessary, because I wanted him to have the gifts. They were for him. Duh!
When he got to my house, he had on a Halloween costume. So, for most of you, that may not seem like a big deal. While he l-o-v-e-s to hand out (and eat) candy to the kids and see all the costumes, my man is not-so-much a costume wearer. However, he knows I
lovecostumes, so the fact that he went to that effort was awesome. He dug out his old High School Football jersey, letterman's jacket, and toted around the tub of candy like a football all night.
He did get me a card and wrote a very sweet message in it...so at least he got the hint. We had a great night, just goofing around, so I'm glad I let it go instead of marinating in it. At the end of the night when we went to bed, he apologized 3 more times.
So, from here on out, I am totally coming to you ladies for dude-advice.
Thanks again and I love you all!!